Oh the inane questions we ask.....

I was ready to write about the Emmys when my blog topic got hijacked while watching Entertainment Tonight. Yes, ET, that tired tabloid show that once really was the place to tap into on all that is hot and happening. Now? Its the place to be if you want to see what CBS is trying to flog as the hot show of the moment and seeing the scary Mary Hart as she never ages (never).

What changed my direction was when perky Mary asked an actor and his long-term girlfriend of 12 years, "So, are you ever going to get married?" I was impressed by his acting abilities as the guy just smiled and gave some stock answer about feeling more committed than most married couples. Nicely done! Very PC - I probably would have asked her how dead her forehead really felt with all that Botox....

Mary's douchebag move made me realize that society at large loves to ask these questions.

For exampler:

If you're single - So, are you seeing anyone?

If you're dating - So, are you going to move in together and/or get married?

If you're living together - So, do you think you'll get married?

If you've been together too long (usually 2 years) - So, do you think you'll ever get married? (this is clearly asked in a way that you obviously know the answer is no)

If you're married - So, when are you going to have kids?

If you're married and no children are produced after 5 years - So, do you think you'll ever have children? (this is typically asked with great concern as it shows a great defect if healthy heterosexual couples are not rapidly producing)

If you are pregnant - So, will you find out the sex? Breastfeed? Clothe or disposal? The questions go on and on and on.....

If you have one child - So, do you want to have another child? Are you going to have another child? When are you having this other child?

Interesting that we don't ask the burning questions we really want to know.

Such as - if you do not seem to show interest in the opposite sex - So, are you gay?

If you seem unhappy in your marriage- S0, are you going to get a divorce?

If you are quite ill and near death- So, are you going to die? If so, can I have your car?

The last question is really stupid, right? Who would say that? Its so crass. Exactly. Just like the other questions, really. You don't know why certain things haven't happened yet - so does it help to ask? I know we are naturally curious; however, don't be a Mary.....